So well said. I think if I had to boil my parenting down to the single most important lesson I tried to instill in my kids, it was You cannot control other people. You can only control your own actions and reactions, so make sure you are always proud or at least ok with yours.
It took me a long time to learn this for myself, and I wanted them to get it way sooner in life.
Way to write! Recovery is recovery in whatever way we need it to be! Magic, miracles and change through self-awareness is happening. Just for today! I love this and you <3
Brava. “I did not quit drinking three years ago because I was powerless over it nor had my life become unmanageable.” In the rooms that’s known as a “problem drinker” who has not crossed the line into powerlessness and unmanageability. I hope you never do. I love every word of this essay.
What you describe is actually the category recovery culture tends to overlook: the person who recognizes the trajectory before it crosses into powerlessness or unmanageability. That’s as valid a form of recovery as any other—maybe even more radical.
I crossed that line in youth and I know that if I ever start up drugs again, they will kill me. I return to the table now for codependency but it is all the same. We are powerless over these things.
I quit alcohol a little over 2 years ago. I was a grey area drinker who always wanted to drink less than I did and then I got breast cancer and that scared me enough to eventually quit, though still two years after my diagnosis. I know what you mean about how it wasn't "hard" to quit, but also, sometimes I still think, "god I'm so boring maybe I should..."
Thanks for writing. Love this ending: "The truth is, we're all recovering from something and we all think we're in control of uncontrollable things until we're not— the weekend drinks, our spouse, the way our kids will turn out. Here is my loving reminder to us that we exist only in this moment. Right here is where the magic can happen, and that is true Recovery— at least, it is for me."
That smell is so tangible, even today having not been around a Clove in decades. Thank you for highlighting what hits for you. This helps me so much to know what matters to readers, and what connects us all. ;)
Bridgit We are all human so we will make mistakes. I know I had realized just lately what I had neglected to do while I was raising my boys. Also we are victims of our upbringing as you had stated earlier. Please dont blame yourself entirely
This one hits home!
Love you🥰
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So well said. I think if I had to boil my parenting down to the single most important lesson I tried to instill in my kids, it was You cannot control other people. You can only control your own actions and reactions, so make sure you are always proud or at least ok with yours.
It took me a long time to learn this for myself, and I wanted them to get it way sooner in life.
So true. I'm definitely still leaning this as a grown person. They're gonna be ahead of the game. 🖤
Way to write! Recovery is recovery in whatever way we need it to be! Magic, miracles and change through self-awareness is happening. Just for today! I love this and you <3
Gosh, I am so grateful for you. You're part of the magic, friend.
Your writing is so powerful. I was blown away by the statistics comparing
overdose deaths with auto and gun deaths. This is an important education
for all of us. Thank you!
Isn't that crazy? When we scream on and on about gun safety but don't address substance use and dependency, I get a little annoyed.
Brava. “I did not quit drinking three years ago because I was powerless over it nor had my life become unmanageable.” In the rooms that’s known as a “problem drinker” who has not crossed the line into powerlessness and unmanageability. I hope you never do. I love every word of this essay.
What you describe is actually the category recovery culture tends to overlook: the person who recognizes the trajectory before it crosses into powerlessness or unmanageability. That’s as valid a form of recovery as any other—maybe even more radical.
I crossed that line in youth and I know that if I ever start up drugs again, they will kill me. I return to the table now for codependency but it is all the same. We are powerless over these things.
Clove cigarettes. I can still smell' em.
I quit alcohol a little over 2 years ago. I was a grey area drinker who always wanted to drink less than I did and then I got breast cancer and that scared me enough to eventually quit, though still two years after my diagnosis. I know what you mean about how it wasn't "hard" to quit, but also, sometimes I still think, "god I'm so boring maybe I should..."
Thanks for writing. Love this ending: "The truth is, we're all recovering from something and we all think we're in control of uncontrollable things until we're not— the weekend drinks, our spouse, the way our kids will turn out. Here is my loving reminder to us that we exist only in this moment. Right here is where the magic can happen, and that is true Recovery— at least, it is for me."
That smell is so tangible, even today having not been around a Clove in decades. Thank you for highlighting what hits for you. This helps me so much to know what matters to readers, and what connects us all. ;)
Bridgit We are all human so we will make mistakes. I know I had realized just lately what I had neglected to do while I was raising my boys. Also we are victims of our upbringing as you had stated earlier. Please dont blame yourself entirely